10 Things No One warns you about in First Trimester

1. Morning Sickness

Morning sickness is all day sickness, morning sickness actually means all day and all night sickness. Whoever came up with the term ‘morning sickness’ obviously lied. The thing with this ‘morning sickness’ that we hear about before pregnancy is that it actually hits at any time of day, sometimes all day, every day, accompanied by dry heaving, gagging, actually throwing up. Sometimes this ‘morning sickness’ is so bad that the only time you get a break from it is when you’re sleeping, oh but wait, point number…

2. Insomnia

From the moment you find out that you’re pregnant you may spend many of your nights awake, at the beginning you’ll just assume that it’s because you’re so excited at the wonderful news, but as the days go on, you begin to notice that you are never sleeping, you don’t care about the reasons why and frankly you just want some damn sleep.

3. FDW Syndrome

You expected this to hit you only later on in the pregnancy but actually it seems to have hit you now and you’ve only just found out that you are pregnant, what?! If you’re wondering what FDW Syndrome stands for – Fat Deflated Whale Syndrome. You used to be the most active non-lazy person, but now everything has changed. Whilst you may not have gained any weight, for some reason you still feel fat, lazy and whale like. You have absolutely no will to do anything in life except for chill on the couch, consume carbs to get rid of the nausea, and pray your way into second trimester. (I know none of us actually do that, but a girl can dream right?)

4. Pregnancy Bloat

Technically speaking we don’t actually start looking pregnant until the end of the first trimester due to the fact that our uterus only rises out of the pelvic cavity around week 11.  Lies. You actually have started looking 5 months pregnant even though you’re only 7 weeks gone. Thanks to pregnancy hormonal changes you have a bloat, a bloat that is so round and bump like you’re considering switching to maternity clothes already.

5. Tightness

You have an increased sense of everything. Everything feels so tight (doesn’t make sense, because you actually haven’t gained any weight, but hey, it’s pregnancy, nothing makes sense). Clothes feel like they get tighter the more you move, you either live in your partner’s clothes, or you wish you could walk around naked – but for fear of being arrested you don’t do that. NB. underwear is totally an unneccesary feature in your life, why have you been wearing it until now?

6. Fatigue

Growing this poppy seed (size at 4 weeks pregnancy)  into a lime (size at 12 weeks pregnancy) is a tiring task. Whilst you may not have announced your joyful news yet, you are yawning your way through work meetings, and conversations with friends and family, making yourself seem like a heartless, uninterested, tired A-hole.

7. Hating your dog

All of a sudden your dog will have this smell which you could swear he/she never had before. You’ll consider giving him up for adoption purely because you can’t stand the smell. (Okay, a little exaggerated but really, did our dogs always smell this way?)

8. Hiring a personal slave

You find that due to your lack of ability to do anything, you hire a personal slave and you don’t pay them. Sometimes you will refer to this slave as ‘husband, boyfriend, partner.’ but for the majority part of the time he is your slave and your wish will be his command otherwise you are getting a divorce.

9. You are a cry-baby

You are definitely not the type of woman to cry in front of others, or cry at bambi (bambi isn’t even that cute, c’mon). Now all of a sudden you’re bawling your eyes out at anything you deem ‘cute’. Like puppies, or babies, or you know, the fact that your husband looked cute whilst driving you to the supermarkets and you realise at precisely that moment that you’re just so in love with him and for some reason now you’re crying about it like a baby – making him in turn wonder what he did wrong this time.

10. No symptoms at all

You meet some fellow pregnant women who don’t seem to suffer any of the symptoms you are having, or in fact any symptoms at all. So you then come to this conclusion

  • they are aliens, or something else but definitely not human and you definitely cannot relate to them
  • these symptoms simply must hit them at some point in the upcoming weeks, if not, there is something wrong with them (in reality some women really just have a wonderful first trimester and yes we hate them)
  • you must cease all conversation with them because they for sure cannot understand you and they do not belong in the ‘first trimester club’ if they’re so happy then please, they should just skip onto second trimester. (Yes, we are jealous of you, and no we have nothing to speak about until we reach second trimester.)

Should we forget ourselves when we become mothers? 

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Somtimes as mothers, we get so lost in ‘being mothers’ that we completely forget to take care of ourselves. We get lost in the whirlwind  of making sure our little loved ones have all their needs met, that they are forever first on our priority list and we truly forget that we are human beings also, that albeit few, may have needs too.

The ability to put your children before you in every way is one of the most beautiful abilities a woman can have, not only does it mean that you are a selfless, loving and nurturing soul, but it also means that your children are lucky to have such a personality as a role model in life. However (there always is a ‘however’), maybe as mothers’ we never realise that sometimes forgetting about ourselves and who we are as an individual can have a negative effect on our children too.

I believe ever so strongly that in order to make others happy around us, we must truly be happy and fulfilled within ourselves – I believe this even more so when it comes to our children. I want to make mothers out there realise that, being a mother and being YOU although can be mixed are two separate parts of life, one dependant on the other. A happy and fulfilled you, automatically makes a happy and positive mother. I came to learn this with my own personal experience as a first time mother with my wonderful baby boy…

…At some point in his first year of life I lost myself and I thought I could only be a great mother if it was all about him. I for sure didn’t do anything for me as I would be overpowered with feelings of guilt and would feel selfish. How dare I do something for myself? As you read this I am sure a lot of you can relate to these feelings, especially as first time mothers. In time I came to realise that in my goal of being the ‘perfect mother’, I was actually making myself miserable because I was losing myself and if I was miserable my little baby was only soaking up these emotions and for sure it could only have negatively affected him, feeling his mother so frustrated (never underestimate your child, they feel EVERYTHING).

So after he was a year old and I realised that my initial supermom tactics weren’t working I decided to take another route, I started doing little things here and there that made ME happy, they didn’t have to be time consuming, just little things that I could identify ME with, such as, getting my nails done, taking 20 minutes in the morning to actually do my make-up, making myself my favourite breakfast on the weekend instead of just eating leftovers etc. you see, making yourself happy doesn’t mean getting a pamper session at a spa every day of the week, but instead, remembering who you are and the things you like the most and trying to incorporate them into your everyday life. Sure enough I started being a much more happier and fulfilled version of myself and I saw a much happier and fulfilled baby as a reflection of my actions.

Our children are our mirrors, a reflection of our innermost feelings because long before they can even speak they can pick up on how we are feeling internally, so use your children as an indicator of the vibes which you may be giving out.

If you’ve ever travelled by plane before you’ll know that they state, in case of emergency, always fit YOUR oxygen mask first and only THEN proceed to helping your child/children. Do you know why they do that? Because in this scenario unless you are breathing well first you cannot help your children to fit the oxygen masks and enable them to breathe safely too. You must take care of yourself first in order to be able to care for your little loved ones. And yes, that does apply to every day life.

So remember doing little things or making little changes, starting from pregnancy and throughout the rest of your childrens’ lives can make the biggest difference in all of your lives. So throughout the Pregnancy Diaries I will be posting all kinds of little tips on what I do to make myself the happiest mother, whether that includes eating well, organisation skills, family activities, all the little components of every day, that add up to make our life. YOUR LIFE, so live it well, full of positive energy and happy vibes!

Get to know me REVERSED

Hey guys, so remember when I posted ‘Meet the Moldovans’? If not then click here. Well, so many of you enjoyed it, that I did a R E V E R S E video where Mihai asked me questions and I demonstrated what an awesome wife I am (of course) 🙂 Link is below, it was a laugh to make, and I hope it brings a smile to your face too! Enjoy! Ox.

 

 

Changes for tomorrow!

How often do we really think about the health of our future? By future, I mean thed next 10 years ahead of us. D0 we ever think about how today’s actions will affect us come a decade? I dont think I ever did. Then all of a sudden I started realising how time flies and how the last 10 years have just flown by so quickly. Some memories feeling like they were only yesterday and some feeling like a whisper of smoke. The more I thought about it the more I realised that there are some small changes that we could make today (even if we don’t feel like they affect our every day) in order to have a healthier, happier tomorrow. So down below I’m linking the changes I’ve made or I plan on making in my 20’s in order to have a healthier 30’s. 

Enjoy the video! And comment below the changes  y o u  are making for your future!

O X O X O

The Pregnancy Diaries #1

It’s the 21 August 2016, 

It’s 5.17am and the only sounds I can hear are the sounds of me tapping against the keyboard and the sound of my thoughts rushing out onto the bed. I’m not early, I can’t sleep. I don’t know if it’s excitement insomnia or if it’s pregnancy insomnia, wait, what did I say?! YES, that’s right!!! Baby no.2 is on the way and I’ve only just found out and I am soooo excited! Excited to share my journey with you!

Okay, so before I rush through all the details (which is actually going to be in my next VLOG: Lifeofachocolategirl on Y O U T U B E, don’t forget to subscribe) I just thought I’d write this post so you’ll know what’s what, where’s what and what to expect over the next 8/9 months.

This blog post by the way is also a little surprise gift to my loyal readers on the blog, as I won’t be doing the Official announcement on social media until later on this evening! So if you read this then ssshhh, because it’s still a secret! On to the point of reading, by the time you read this I’ll probably be 6/7 weeks pregnant as I only plan on announcing then, so this will actually be a retrospective read for you. To make it more fun & easy though, I have made a new sub-section on the blog called ‘The Pregnancy Diaries’. So if you click on there you’ll easily be able to find any and every post that is pregnancy related. Secondly, as there will be a whole chunk of retrospective reading material until this point, after each post title there will be a hashtag and a number e.g. this one…

‘The Pregnancy Diaries #1’

… fairly explainable but I have numbered the posts consecutively for your ease so that you can read them in the correct order (I know I’m super organized right?!)

If you are an I N S T A G R A M user, then you can find me on insta@reemamoldovan – everything pregnancy related, baby bump pics, scans, pregnancy fitness pics will be findable under the hashtag hashtagLCGpregnancydiaries

For my S N A P C H A T users, you can add me on both – reema.karina – or – mihai2m -. For those who already know my husband he is an awesome chef, so we will be posting fitness recipes and pregnancy diet tips, couple workouts, pregnancy workouts over on there.

Okay, sooo apart from my ridiculously awesome organization skills (am I allowed to show off just a little bit) I think that’s about it for now, stay tuned because I will be posting DAILY in the pregnancy diaries and I have sooooo much more to come! Anything you want me to specifically write about then leave me a comment and I’ll be sure to do a post for you!

Hugs & Love,

Reema

Ox.

Truth Revealed

I get many questions over social media such as, how did I go from a med student to ‘fit momma’ – (did you know I was actually studying to be a Dr?) ha, got ya, something you didn’t know about me! How did I choose to marry so young? Was I even dating my husband before we got married? 

So, in the video below I answered all the questions, personal questions, about me and my life. More than a ‘get to know me’, this is the  TRUTH REVEALED! 

Enjoy!

OXO

Positivity with a cup of coffee!

Goood morning, so it’s Thursday, not any special day in particular right, but, then again, why not? As I’m sipping my cup of coffee and going through today’s agenda, my first thought was, ‘Oh, it’s just Thursday, nothing special, work, gym, Ayan…blah blah blah.’ But then my second thought after that was, ‘Hey, shouldn’t I be making every day special? At least in some way or the other. How will I make today special?’. 

Today, I will fill my day with positive thoughts and hopefully I won’t be filling just my day, but also yours too!

Here below is a little mental motivation video on how and why I keep myself positive, and why motivation is a must to get through every day! Whether that day is absolutely perfect or maybe even not so good…For today, I wish you a postive one!

With love, Chocolate Girl!