Finding a comfort zone.

We’ve fast forwarded to 2019 and here I am back again after a literal eternity, on my blog. Untouched, dusty, yet waiting for me. With blog posts only I have written, words that have crossed my mind only and spilled from my fingers onto my keyboard, here my blog, a part of me, waits. Already a few steps behind the fashion, it already needs a re-do, to be fancy and glam and back up to date.

However, today I’m not here to talk about how I’m going to re-do my blog, what I will be posting or what about, I’m sure you’ll find out yourself as the days go by. Today I’m posting about our comfort zones.

A phrase which we’ve been accustomed to dislike and one we’re always being told to leave, to jump out of, something we should leave behind in order to enable us to go further, reach higher and run faster. Do I disagree completely? No. Do I have something to say about this? I always have something to say about everything.

Whilst all or none of the above may be true about comfort zones, whilst you’re reading this on a Monday morning I want you to truly think about what is our comfort zone and why is it called this? Because to me it seems almost like it has been tainted with a black mark. Like we’re almost supposed to hate feeling comfortable with ourselves, such a paradox. When in another way, beings can only achieve great things if they are comfortable in and within themselves.

How can I achieve great things if I’m not constantly in a comfortable zone with myself? Does the phrase ‘comfort zone’ really portray what we think it means? Can we not stay there and also jump higher, reach our goals, the stars and beyond? A comfort is a comfort and yes, of course, if we take this away we are putting ourselves into an agitated state in order to push our minds, bodies and spirits to regain this back. And then what? We’re pushing it further and out the boundary again. A constant push and pull, a discipline which teaches us to take away and then self reward. Whilst in the long term there of course is nothing entirely wrong with this, I have started viewing things in another perspective.

S E L F LOVE. Is an expression in which I have taken great interest in lately and within this I have found a greater and deeper perspective of seeing things, a way of being in which you love who you are enough to want more for yourself. You are so comfortable with yourself it gives you great confidence to go and reach what you think further belongs to you and claim it as yours.

So, on this Monday morning I am pondering the link between self love, comfort zones and where we really need to be in order to reach our goals. What are your thoughts on this?

Mama Guru #MOMTASKS – How to prep for the upcoming year.

It’s 3 days until the NEW YEAR 2018, now I don’t know about you but for this mama bear over here, that does NOT mean ‘3 days until a New Year party + hangover’. However, it DOES MEAN ‘3 days until a fresh start.’ Starting my year with 2 cute babies (if I don’t say so myself) a whole new set of goals and ambition to unlock, new routines to set in place and whole new year of motherhood! Excited? Yes. Anxious? A little. I’ve always been slightly over ambitious, however, I like it. There exists in our wonderful world an awesome saying which over the years has slowly become my mama mantra;

“Reach for the moon and you’ll land somewhere amongst the stars.”

Yah, yah I know as a science-y mom it’s doesnt make 100% sense. But the moivational sense is just perfect right? So thats pretty much what I always do, aim to do way too much stuff then I could probably possibly handle, don’t achieve it always but then when I look back, I’ve still done a hell of a lot anyways. Awesome right? Anywaaaays, down below I’m listing my top ways in which I will be prepping for the New Year 2018!

TIP 1: Getting lots of rest – I’m one of those oh soooo lucky housewives (THANK YOU HUSBAND) who doesn’t have to work. However, people confuse this daily with thinking that us housewives get a whole bunch of time to rest. Three words. So not true. This holidays I’ve been super lucky because baby daddy was home and I got a whole bunch of sleep ins. That was sooo great because at the end of this year I was literally feeling at my breaking point from exhaustion. So if you can, get some rest to stock you up for the happenings of 2018.

TIP 2: AGENDA PLANNING – I don’t know about the rest of the world but I literally cannot live without an agenda/diary. I know that may seem so old school as we do have phones etc. nowadays, yet I still feel so accomplished when I write down all the stuff I have to do and then tick them off. So go shopping and grab yourself a planning tool!

TIP 3: FAMILY ROUTINE – I’m a club mama, social mama, blogging mama, gym mama, insta mama, studying mama, stay at home mama. I don’t usually go for stereotypes but IF I had to fit myself into a stereotype, these are a few that I’d fit into. Alongside this I have 2 babies, with different routines and clubs and swimming lessons, okay okay you get my point. My point IS, drawing up a family routine that you’ll be able to stick to on a day to day basis throughout the year without many changes is a MUST and a key to success.

TIP 4: DETOXING When you hear this word are you thinking juice detoxes? I’m not. However, I am thinking, detox the mind body and soul, so I’m not waiting until after the new year to head back to the gym or to eat healthy. I’ve piled on a few pounds (to say the least). I’ve been eating so unhealthily and I’m just generally feeling sluggish and lazy all over. So instead of waiting until after the new year to start feeling healthy again where I feel that will essentially be kind of starting the New Year negatively if I start it feeling the way I feel now, I’ve decided I’m going to get a kick start on my health goals and start NOW. So that I can start my new year already feeling healthy.

TIP 5: BE HAPPY AND ELIBERATE MY SOUL – This will for sure be the hardest one. 2017 has been one of my favourite years, yet it was also filled with some disappointment in the outer fields (like not enough time for the blog etc.). But hey, who doesn’t have occasional disappointments now and again? I mean would life be life without them? More importantly I’ve learnt this year to focus on the positive and the positive for this year was that I feel like I excelled in my motherhood. Now I don’t mean to say that I believe that I am the perfect mother or anything like that but what I mean to say is that I feel that although not achieving goals in other areas of my life, I feel like I’ve achieved all goals that I set for myself as a mother, I feel as though I have found my balance with my and my two precious angels, so that’s the HAPPY part. Now for the hard part; eliberating my soul. Letting go of the things that disappointed me will only make space for all the new things and aspects I want to add to my life right? And I know most of us, including me, say we let go of things but how many of us really do so? Or are they forever lurking thoughts in the back of our mind? Letting go of circumstances you can’t change is letting true happiness into your heart and that my friends is what I aim to do and so should you!

So there you have it my TOP FIVE TIPS to help me transition from this year to the next full of vibrance, positivity and love. How about yours? Let me know your goals for the upcoming year!

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