Some of us in this world can give birth and within the shortest space of time can go back to looking like they never really just spent 9 months housing a tiny human being rent free. However, majority of mothers don’t seem to escape the reminders so easily and are left with marks that may make us feel as though we are the only ones who have them, when in reality, a majority of our fellow mothers feel the same way and have them too. I definitely was hit hard with the ‘mum tum’ the second time round and so I decided to write and share my 10 truths in case you share them too.
Your muscles post- partum have adapted to the pregnancy shape, so that you always look like you have a 4 month pregnancy bump, even if you’ve lost a ton of weight.
Stretch marks – they’re there and even though somehow if you didn’t notice them whilst you were pregnant, they’re still there.
Extra Skin – literally just ‘hanging there’.
Even if you have a flat tummy in the morning, after you eat you tend to look bloated and rounded out. This is due to the muscles not being as strong as they were pre-pregnancy.
Your stomach is darker than the rest of your body – if you are Caucasian or any other light skinned origin then this isn’t such a major issue and for most, not even noticeable. On the other hand, if you’re dark skinned like me, or even darker than it makes a massive difference from our darker pigment all collected together in our excess skin.
You’re still sporting you’re linea neagra, this almost always fades away however straight after birth it still sticks around for a bit.
Depending on how big your bump grew or what your belly button was like before, chances are you belly button is ‘bigger’ an ‘outie’ now or there is some considerate change. Most people generally have their belly buttons go back to normal after a while, however few people don’t. (Mine definitely changed after my first pregnancy and was bigger)
If you’ve had a c-section, you may have an overhang, a dip (not everyone has these) but also a scar. Within a year most c-section scars are pencil thin, however some may end up thicker.
Hairy Belly – some ladies grow hair on their bey during pregnancy, it can’t really be seen during the time of pregnancy however after baby is out and all the skin collects, you find that you have a hairy, floppy belly. Attractive right? But not to worry, it will fall out and not grow back again, or if you can’t wait until then, then you can shave it off like I did. (Shaved once and it never grew back).
Although sometimes you find yourself wishing you had your old abs back, nearly all the time all these changes fade away and in the end even if you don’t look exactly the same as you did pre-pregnancy you won’t really mind that you went through all these changes because in the end, it was all so worth it.
How often do we really think about the health of our future? By future, I mean thed next 10 years ahead of us. D0 we ever think about how today’s actions will affect us come a decade? I dont think I ever did. Then all of a sudden I started realising how time flies and how the last 10 years have just flown by so quickly. Some memories feeling like they were only yesterday and some feeling like a whisper of smoke. The more I thought about it the more I realised that there are some small changes that we could make today (even if we don’t feel like they affect our every day) in order to have a healthier, happier tomorrow. So down below I’m linking the changes I’ve made or I plan on making in my 20’s in order to have a healthier 30’s.
Enjoy the video! And comment below the changes y o u are making for your future!
The hardest thing about being a parent is not the poopy diapers, the sleepless nights, the early mornings, the change in family functionalities, it’s not even the emotional roller coaster that comes with being a parent. No, no. The hardest thing about being a parent is growing and developing with our child, learning to accept certain changes, and being stuck in this ‘realm of want’ between the future and the past.
What I mean exactly is that we find ourselves looking at pictures of our babies in the past and wishing they were that tiny again, then the next minute we find ourselves thinking about how much we can’t wait till our beautiful little bundle of joy can sit or stand or do the next coolest thing. For many of us, that’s the hardest about being a parent, to accept these changes that happen every second of every minute of every day. It sometimes makes you feel that since having a baby everything is one big blur. Almost like a fast forwarding recording.
Wishing our baby was that teeny newborn again, then waiting in anticipation for him to be able to sit up by himself. Does that make us as parents ungrateful? Of course not. Do you sometimes feel that you are ungrateful for having these feelings? Me too. The point here is accepting the constant change of that teeny person who we love the most in the entire universe.
Of course we are absolutely greatful and 100% satisfied with our healthy little bundles of joy that grow with laughter, tears and in weight and height every single day! This post steers far away from that. However, those who read this and can empathize and identify, I’ve written this post to say I feel you! I found myself in the strange ‘realm between past and future’ today whilst holding my little baby in my arms. Everyday I find (no matter at what age he is, that I just wish I could freeze him and keep him as he is.) Then it hit me what a strange concept this was. Common yet strange… Like most of the feelings involved when you are a parent.
On that note I dedicate this post to my beautiful little baby boy who is 4 and a half months old. He’s a very healthy, beautiful, strong smart little boy and I love him with all my heart!
I’d love to see all your cute little bundles of joy! So please feel free to comment pictures below.