A love note for Dragobete

Sweet smiles, skipped beats, held hands, heartbeats.

Catch the spark, a work of art, the beauty of her body, a beating heart.

Touch my soul, feel me fly, engulf my whole, you and I.

Taste my essence, touch my skin, feel my presence, reel me in.

Whispered secrets, dreamy gaze, exchanged thoughts, different ways.

Sounds of laughter, tears of pain, sought after, again and again.

Smell my scent, I’ll drown in yours, you’ll hold my heart as I hold yours.

Love is made and felt and seen, this is love, this is real.

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Reflecting upon ourselves.

Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about the way in which I want to raise my children, in hindsight my views on child raising have changed tremendously from the time I was pregnant with Ayan to now being a mother of two children. Not only am I a mother of two children but I am blessed to be a mother of a boy and a girl, along with this blessing, I feel comes great responsibility, as the days go by and my beautiful children grow with each passing day, I find myself wondering about the future. Curious about how they will look like, what they will be when they are older, what their favourite subjects at school will be, what will their first boyfriends and girlfriends will look like. Just all the fun and crazy stuff that most mothers think of but will rarely admit to, but  you know me, no filter here, unless it’s on instagram…of course.

My daughter is the closest soul to me since I graced the earth with my presence, I don’t know if it’s our star signs, our personalities or whatever you would like to believe in, but my energy and hers are so in sync and never has a being loved me as much as this little being loves me (I know I’m lucky right). Everywhere I am,  you will find her there too, in my arms, hanging around my legs, playing with my make up, putting her hands in my plate, today she was taking out my fresh washing out the basket onto the floor, as I was trying to put them to dry. And all of a sudden as I was methodically putting the washing to dry her playful presence misted into the distance and thoughts started flying into my head, how will it be when we finally have to separate? Will we suffer? Will she blossom from my branch into her own flower? How will she deal with heartbreak? How will my daughter see herself in the future? How will she present herself to her first boyfriend? How much self esteem will she have? How will she see into her inner self?

You see, I am a mother of only 24 years old, it wasn’t long ago I was a confused teenager, lost, with no guidance, no healthy relationship models in my life, except for the ones which I found myself. I remember the confusion like it was yesterday, the confusion of love and self being, the fogginess of a kiss and not tell the next day, the heartbreaking mist of what it felt like to not know what was wrong with me when a guy treated me bad. As I’ve grown up I’ve slowly, slowly pushed the painful memories to the back of my head, suppressing them as though they never really happened, because at the end of the day, that’s what we are taught to do by the people around us and by civilization right?

It is so rare a woman opens up her wounds after she has haphazardly sewn them in her younger days, why is that? All that leads to is generations upon generations of confused hearts always wondering what’s wrong with them in response to an external consequence.

So lesson one to my babygirl is going to be about those stolen kisses, those kisses with those who love her and also with those who don’t. I came across recently this conversation with a close friend after meeting with a guy she liked, he never called, so she started wondering what was wrong with her. What had she done wrong? Was she not pretty enough? Was she not a good enough kisser? Was her personality miserable?

I said nothing, I merely comforted my friend, yet now I wish I could go back and tell her the things I will proceed to tell my daughter..

If you kiss someone and they don’t call you, then that is no reason to self attack or self judge. It doesn’t mean that something was wrong with you, it is not a reflection of your inadequacies, because my love, you have none, you have differences, some which are accepted and others which are declined by those around you. And that is okay. We don’t have to like everyone around us right? This is the same, if someone doesn’t call you back, whatever the circumstance may be, this is not a reflection of you but a reflection of that person, it is they who is lost in the stormy mess of thoughts with which they cannot be honest with. It is a reflection of their taste and their dislikes and their personal preferences, it is a reflection of how they view the world and you within it…after all, it is THEY who did not get back to you. So love freely my darling, be wild but never ask yourself why someone else left you with unanswered questions, it is ironically, merely a question with which you will have to ask them.

Wordpress on the Weekend.

Hi guys, so it’s the weekend and I’m going to be enjoying it with my family, what are you guys up to this weekend? My intermittent fasting posts were a hit over here on the blog and I just wanted to take some time out to THANK YOU guys for liking and reading my posts!

This week, not only did we reach *MOST LIKES* in a day at Life of a Chocolate Girl but we also reached *100 followers on the blog*! To some this may be a miniscule amount but to me this is a mountain, hopefully my first of many mountains, I would not have reached here without my subscribers and I am so grateful and happy for my mini milestones which I have reached.

So to celebrate these mini milestones, I am planning so much for you on the blog, amongst all the chaos of the family, I have so many life changes which have taken place and as always I will be bring you on every journey with me. For the moment we will remain on the journey through intermittent fasting and on the next blog post I want to talk more to you guys about KETOSIS…so keep an eye out.

So my fellow followers, have a creative and great weekend, and keep your eyes peeled for the next post!

Love R, xox

Știință in spatele postului intermitent.

Ți-am spus despre postul intermitent, despre ce înseamnă în postările precedente, iar in blog-ul de astăzi îți voi da o scurtă trecere peste ce spune ȘTIINȚA despre postul intermitent, cum funcționează și mai mult de ce ne este de folos.

Deci, postul intermitent vizează mai ales perioadele de 16: 8. Asta înseamnă 16 ore de post și o fereastră de 8 ore în care mancăm. Dacă nu știți ce înseamnă acest lucru, puteți citi totul despre asta pe postarea mea anterioară pe blog făcând clic aici.

Atunci când o persoană se hrănește intermitent, ei mănâncă adesea în blocul de 8 ore, lăsându-i cu cele 16 ore de post (acest lucru este, în general, cel mai frecvent tip de post intermitent – unele pot face perioade mai scurte sau mai lungi). Acest lucru face diferența între oamenii care nu urmează postul intermitent deoarece, după aproximativ 10-12 ore, au loc următoarele schimbări în corpul nostruȘ

1. Când mâncăm, de obicei depozităm energia sub formă de glicogen în ficat, totuși după 10-12 ore de post, nivelul glicogenului devine extrem de scăzut. În majoritatea cazurilor acest lucru va însemna nu numai că veți începe să simțiți senzația de foame, ci și o stare de nervozitate, termen pe care mulți dintre noi îl cunoaștem astăzi ca HANGRY(hungry + angry), dar mai important …

2. Cu puțin glicogen rămas, celulele grase din corpul tău eliberează grăsime în sânge. Grăsimea care a fost eliberată face ca ficatul să transforme această grăsime în energie pentru utilizare de către organism și chiar mai important pentru continuarea funcționării sănătoase a creierului, prin urmare, sunteți stare absolută de arderea grăsimilor pentru energie.

3. Probele de sânge arată că persoanele care au postit între 12 și 24 de ore au avut o creștere de 60% a energiei din arderea grăsimilor. Cea mai mare creștere după îregistrându-se după 18 ore.

4. Alte beneficii ale postului intermitent, în afară de arederea exclusivă a grăsimilor, o mai bună sănătate cardiovasculară și reducerea apetitului, este CETOZA.

5. Procesul de ardere a grăsimilor pentru energie prin eliberearea unor substanțe chimice numite corpuri cetonici.

6. În creierului cetonii declanșează eliberarea unei molecule importante numite BDNF.

7. Moleculele BDNF sunt responsabile pentru construirea și consolidarea neuronilor și a conexiunilor neuronale în zonele creierului responsabile de învățarea și memoria.

Deci, într-o recapitulare, postul intermitent ne pune corpul în cetoză, ceea ce ne ajută în numeroase moduri, mai mult, veți descoperi că, deși oamenii încep postul intermitent ca metodă de reducere a greutății, mulți îl adaptează ca parte a unui stil de viață, datorită celorlalte 101 beneficii ale cetozei.

Am studiat temeinic cetoza din orice unghi și voi extinde pe blog mai multe despre acest proces și de ce noi oamenii am fost făcuți pentru această practică. De ce am folosit cetoza pentru a supravietui de ani de zile si de ce ne ajuta in zilele noastre la tratarea pacientilor cu dementa, in tratarea epilepsiei la copii, pentru tratarea eczemelor de zi cu zi.

De mâine plănuiesc să încep si eu postul intermitent și să înregistrez fiecare pas nu doar pe blog aici, ci și într-un VLOG pe Youtube. Dacă există ceva specific pe care ai dori să-l întrebi despre postul intermitent, cetoza sau lucrurile pe care ai vrea să le notez, te rog să-mi dai un comentariu sau un mesaj și să-mi spui. Abia aștept să încep acest post și să văd dintr-o perspectivă personală cum imi putea afecta pozitiv și negativ viața de zi cu zi.

Sperând la cele mai bune, până atunci, pe data viitoare!

Fasting February

Hey guys! So since my last post, both my children contracted one of the worst viruses that had been going round (both better now) – we travelled to Denmark (VLOG coming soon) and now, finallyyy it’s the 1st February and I know you guys are tired of me talking about this intermittent fasting and want me to actually get some action in. SO THE DAY IS HERE. As we spoke on the previous blog posts all about this type of fasting and how it may aid in fat loss, I really wanted to see for myself.

So since 1st January, I noted down my weight on as many mornings as I remembered to weigh myself. I also noted down the amout of cardio I did everytime I did cardio. Ps. I know cardio isn’t the only weightloss option but I literally use cardio as a relaxation method amongst doing a teeeny little bit of weights, due to timing issues, total mom life. So for now #iamarunner. Below I will note down everything as I recorded and so for February I will do the exact same thing, except I will also add in intermittent fasting! I won’t change my diet plan or the gym schedule (which is by the way non-existent, I just go when I can). And from this at the end of February I’d like to do a comparison to see if by keeping everything the same in my lifestyle and simply adding in intermittent fasting, does it have an effect on fat/weight loss?

01/01 – 55.3kg

02/01 – 54.1kg

03/01  – 53.9kg

04/01 – 53.7kg – 5.15km 

05/01 – 53.5kg – 2.05km

06/01 – 53.4kg – 2.52km

08/01 – 53.5kg – 6.13km 

09/01 – 54kg – 5.08km

10/01 – 53.3kg – 3.09km

11/01 – 52.5kg – 2.53km 

12/01 – 52.7kg 

13/01 – 52.9kg – 7.3km 

14/01 – 52.2kg

16/01 – 52.9kg – 3.19km

17/01 – 52.7kg – 2.16km

20/01 – 52.6kg

21/01 – 52.5kg – 3.09km

24/01 – 52.6kg – 2.14km

31/01 – 53.2kg – 7.64km 

 

Total weight loss: 2.1kg

Total Cardio: 52.07 km

So these are the overall stats for the month of January, today is the 2nd of February so I did START with the intermittent fasting yesterday, however, of course I only managed to post on the blog today, no thanks to babies haha! I will also be vlogging about this sometime throughout the month, so don’t forget to subscribe to my youtube channel (life of a chocolate girl).

Any questions, or anything specific you’d like to know about any and all of this, just drop them down below! Catch you on the next post!

The science behind intermittent fasting.

So I’ve told you about intermittent fasting, I’ve told you all about what it means and on today’s post I’m going to be giving you guys a quick run through on what SCIENCE says about intermittent fasting, how it works and more importantly why it benefits us.

So, intermittent fasting mostly follows the 16:8 periods. That is 16 hours of fasting and an 8 hour eating window. If you don’t know what that means, you can read all about it on my previous blog post by clicking here.

When a person intermittently fasts, they often eat within the 8 hour block leaving them with the 16 hours of eating (this is just generally the most common type of intermittent fasting – some may do shorter or longer periods). This sets them apart from people who do not intermittently fast because after around 10-12 hours, the following changes take place in our body;

  1. When you eat you usually store energy in the form of glycogen in your liver, however after 10-12 hours of fasting, your glycogen levels will be extremely low. In most cases this will mean you will not only start feeling hungry but also angry a term many of us know nowadays as HANGRY, but more importantly…
  2. With little glycogen left, fat cells in your body release fat into the bloodstream. The fat that has been released make it’s way to the liver to be converted into energy for use by the body and even more importantly for continuing healthy functioning of the brain, therefore, you are LITERALLY burning fat for energy.
  3. Blood samples show people who fasted between 12-24 had a 60% increase in energy from fat. With the biggest increase after 18 hours.
  4. This is the biggest benefit of intermittent fasting aside from exclusively fat loss, better cardiovascular health and lowered appetite. It is the benefit of KETOSIS.
  5. The process of burning fat for energy releases chemicals called KETONES.
  6. In the brain ketones trigger the release of an important molecule called BDNF.
  7. BDNF is responsible for helping build and strengthen neurones and neural connections in areas of the brain responsible for learning and memory.

So in a recap, intermittent fasting puts our body in ketosis, which benefits us in all kinds of numerous ways, moreover, you’ll find that although people start intermittent fasting as a method of weight loss, many adapt it as part of a lifestyle, due to the 101 other benefits of ketosis (I mean who doesn’t want to be smarter?!).

I have thoroughly studied ketosis from every angle and I will expand on the blog all about this process and why us humans were made for this practise. Why we have been using ketosis to survive for years and why it benefits us nowadays from helping to treat dementia patients to treating epilepsy in children to treating every day eczema. From tomorrow I am planning on starting my own intermittent fasts and recording them down not only on the blog over here for you but also in VLOG form over on the tube. If there’s anything specific you’d like to ask me about intermittent fasting, ketosis, or things you’d like me to note down, please drop me a comment and let me know. I can’t wait to start this and see from a personal view how it may positively and negatively affect day to day life.

Hoping for the best, until then, see you next time on the blog!

O X O X 

What is intermittent fasting?

You’ve heard about intermittent fasting and if you’re an old and loyal reader on the blog then you’ve also heard that I’m stepping into the world of intermittent fasting. I keep using this term but you keep asking yourself, ‘What exactly does intermittent fasting mean?’ 

Intermittent fasting is subsequently alternating between periods of eating and periods of fasting. Rather than minding what foods you it is entirely focused on when you eat these certain foods. We all fast in some way or another every time we sleep, intermittent fasting in theory is simply prolonging this fast. The most common fast which you will come across is the 16:8. This basically represents 16 hours of fasting with an 8 hour slot for eating. Over time,this fast has proven to be the most common due to the scientific research behind it (on the next blog). Studies show that the most EFFECTIVE fasts are ones which are held for a period of 16 – 18 hours. However, you will find that most or nearly everyone that intermittently fasts have always increased fasting periods gradually over time rather than throwing themselves straight into it. The smallest fasting period which can also be stated as ‘effective’ is 12 hours. Therefore a cycle of 12:12 would be the best to start on if you are a beginner.

During fasts, no food is allowed to be consumed (obviously), water, tea, coffee and any other non-alcoholic beverages are allowed. Although intermittent fasting seems like a long time without any food, our bodies adapt very quickly and if you are including your sleep time at night as your fast (which is generally the thing to do otherwise you’d be fasting twice in a 24 hour period and that would NOT be okay) – it makes it all the easier.

Alongside the most obvious benefit of intermittent fasting weight loss, other benefits are present such as fat loss, increased metabolic health, increased energy levels during the time of fasting, increased protection against disease, and the most recent studies (although not yet official) show that intermittent fasting may even help you live a little longer!

So there’s my introductory run down on the intermittent fasting definition and what it actually means, on the next blog post I’ll be writing all about the specific science behind the practise. I mean, at the end of the day, that’s basically what you guys really wanna know, right?

Are any of you intermittent fasters? Have you seen any other benefits other than those I’ve stated? Comment them to me, I’d love to know!

A Happy New Year

2017 was a year full of growth for me. My family grew as Aryana made her debut on April fools day. My waistband grew as I devoted my time being a mother and enjoyed great food and got fat. My experiences grew as I took my babies and travelled to 5 countries in 1 year. However, most importantly 2017 was the year I grew the most I’ve ever done as a person. It was the year I realised what was the most important in life, the year I delve into my soul and found myself. The year where I realised just how lucky I really am. So more than anything, at the end of this year, I am THANKFUL. Thankful for my lovely family, my wonderful friends, thankful for my health, 2 beautiful beautiful children. Thankful that I have been so BLESSED with everything I have. And counting my blessings from the water I have running freely out of my tap today – to the healthy happy children I put to bed at night. I hope all of you, my friends, despite all the ups and downs which you encounter are as happy and free at the end of this year as am I. I sincerely hope for everyone I know personally and for those I don’t that 2018 will be a year of growth, of love, of happiness and of laughter. A year full of health and satisfaction and more over a year which you can look back on with love overflowing in your heart. Happy New Year to my loved ones near and far! Love you all! 💗

Mama Guru #MOMTASKS – How to prep for the upcoming year.

It’s 3 days until the NEW YEAR 2018, now I don’t know about you but for this mama bear over here, that does NOT mean ‘3 days until a New Year party + hangover’. However, it DOES MEAN ‘3 days until a fresh start.’ Starting my year with 2 cute babies (if I don’t say so myself) a whole new set of goals and ambition to unlock, new routines to set in place and whole new year of motherhood! Excited? Yes. Anxious? A little. I’ve always been slightly over ambitious, however, I like it. There exists in our wonderful world an awesome saying which over the years has slowly become my mama mantra;

“Reach for the moon and you’ll land somewhere amongst the stars.”

Yah, yah I know as a science-y mom it’s doesnt make 100% sense. But the moivational sense is just perfect right? So thats pretty much what I always do, aim to do way too much stuff then I could probably possibly handle, don’t achieve it always but then when I look back, I’ve still done a hell of a lot anyways. Awesome right? Anywaaaays, down below I’m listing my top ways in which I will be prepping for the New Year 2018!

TIP 1: Getting lots of rest – I’m one of those oh soooo lucky housewives (THANK YOU HUSBAND) who doesn’t have to work. However, people confuse this daily with thinking that us housewives get a whole bunch of time to rest. Three words. So not true. This holidays I’ve been super lucky because baby daddy was home and I got a whole bunch of sleep ins. That was sooo great because at the end of this year I was literally feeling at my breaking point from exhaustion. So if you can, get some rest to stock you up for the happenings of 2018.

TIP 2: AGENDA PLANNING – I don’t know about the rest of the world but I literally cannot live without an agenda/diary. I know that may seem so old school as we do have phones etc. nowadays, yet I still feel so accomplished when I write down all the stuff I have to do and then tick them off. So go shopping and grab yourself a planning tool!

TIP 3: FAMILY ROUTINE – I’m a club mama, social mama, blogging mama, gym mama, insta mama, studying mama, stay at home mama. I don’t usually go for stereotypes but IF I had to fit myself into a stereotype, these are a few that I’d fit into. Alongside this I have 2 babies, with different routines and clubs and swimming lessons, okay okay you get my point. My point IS, drawing up a family routine that you’ll be able to stick to on a day to day basis throughout the year without many changes is a MUST and a key to success.

TIP 4: DETOXING When you hear this word are you thinking juice detoxes? I’m not. However, I am thinking, detox the mind body and soul, so I’m not waiting until after the new year to head back to the gym or to eat healthy. I’ve piled on a few pounds (to say the least). I’ve been eating so unhealthily and I’m just generally feeling sluggish and lazy all over. So instead of waiting until after the new year to start feeling healthy again where I feel that will essentially be kind of starting the New Year negatively if I start it feeling the way I feel now, I’ve decided I’m going to get a kick start on my health goals and start NOW. So that I can start my new year already feeling healthy.

TIP 5: BE HAPPY AND ELIBERATE MY SOUL – This will for sure be the hardest one. 2017 has been one of my favourite years, yet it was also filled with some disappointment in the outer fields (like not enough time for the blog etc.). But hey, who doesn’t have occasional disappointments now and again? I mean would life be life without them? More importantly I’ve learnt this year to focus on the positive and the positive for this year was that I feel like I excelled in my motherhood. Now I don’t mean to say that I believe that I am the perfect mother or anything like that but what I mean to say is that I feel that although not achieving goals in other areas of my life, I feel like I’ve achieved all goals that I set for myself as a mother, I feel as though I have found my balance with my and my two precious angels, so that’s the HAPPY part. Now for the hard part; eliberating my soul. Letting go of the things that disappointed me will only make space for all the new things and aspects I want to add to my life right? And I know most of us, including me, say we let go of things but how many of us really do so? Or are they forever lurking thoughts in the back of our mind? Letting go of circumstances you can’t change is letting true happiness into your heart and that my friends is what I aim to do and so should you!

So there you have it my TOP FIVE TIPS to help me transition from this year to the next full of vibrance, positivity and love. How about yours? Let me know your goals for the upcoming year!

X O X O X

Keeping my smile on during the festive period!

So Christmas is over but the festive spirit of course is still very alive in our hearts! Keeping our teeth white and not wine stained is quite hard, especially during this time of the year, however, I’ve incorporated a new step into my daily routine that’s helping me keep my smile white!  Check out the link below and give it a thumbs up if you like it, see you on the next post!