A love note for Dragobete

Sweet smiles, skipped beats, held hands, heartbeats.

Catch the spark, a work of art, the beauty of her body, a beating heart.

Touch my soul, feel me fly, engulf my whole, you and I.

Taste my essence, touch my skin, feel my presence, reel me in.

Whispered secrets, dreamy gaze, exchanged thoughts, different ways.

Sounds of laughter, tears of pain, sought after, again and again.

Smell my scent, I’ll drown in yours, you’ll hold my heart as I hold yours.

Love is made and felt and seen, this is love, this is real.

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Reflecting upon ourselves.

Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about the way in which I want to raise my children, in hindsight my views on child raising have changed tremendously from the time I was pregnant with Ayan to now being a mother of two children. Not only am I a mother of two children but I am blessed to be a mother of a boy and a girl, along with this blessing, I feel comes great responsibility, as the days go by and my beautiful children grow with each passing day, I find myself wondering about the future. Curious about how they will look like, what they will be when they are older, what their favourite subjects at school will be, what will their first boyfriends and girlfriends will look like. Just all the fun and crazy stuff that most mothers think of but will rarely admit to, but  you know me, no filter here, unless it’s on instagram…of course.

My daughter is the closest soul to me since I graced the earth with my presence, I don’t know if it’s our star signs, our personalities or whatever you would like to believe in, but my energy and hers are so in sync and never has a being loved me as much as this little being loves me (I know I’m lucky right). Everywhere I am,  you will find her there too, in my arms, hanging around my legs, playing with my make up, putting her hands in my plate, today she was taking out my fresh washing out the basket onto the floor, as I was trying to put them to dry. And all of a sudden as I was methodically putting the washing to dry her playful presence misted into the distance and thoughts started flying into my head, how will it be when we finally have to separate? Will we suffer? Will she blossom from my branch into her own flower? How will she deal with heartbreak? How will my daughter see herself in the future? How will she present herself to her first boyfriend? How much self esteem will she have? How will she see into her inner self?

You see, I am a mother of only 24 years old, it wasn’t long ago I was a confused teenager, lost, with no guidance, no healthy relationship models in my life, except for the ones which I found myself. I remember the confusion like it was yesterday, the confusion of love and self being, the fogginess of a kiss and not tell the next day, the heartbreaking mist of what it felt like to not know what was wrong with me when a guy treated me bad. As I’ve grown up I’ve slowly, slowly pushed the painful memories to the back of my head, suppressing them as though they never really happened, because at the end of the day, that’s what we are taught to do by the people around us and by civilization right?

It is so rare a woman opens up her wounds after she has haphazardly sewn them in her younger days, why is that? All that leads to is generations upon generations of confused hearts always wondering what’s wrong with them in response to an external consequence.

So lesson one to my babygirl is going to be about those stolen kisses, those kisses with those who love her and also with those who don’t. I came across recently this conversation with a close friend after meeting with a guy she liked, he never called, so she started wondering what was wrong with her. What had she done wrong? Was she not pretty enough? Was she not a good enough kisser? Was her personality miserable?

I said nothing, I merely comforted my friend, yet now I wish I could go back and tell her the things I will proceed to tell my daughter..

If you kiss someone and they don’t call you, then that is no reason to self attack or self judge. It doesn’t mean that something was wrong with you, it is not a reflection of your inadequacies, because my love, you have none, you have differences, some which are accepted and others which are declined by those around you. And that is okay. We don’t have to like everyone around us right? This is the same, if someone doesn’t call you back, whatever the circumstance may be, this is not a reflection of you but a reflection of that person, it is they who is lost in the stormy mess of thoughts with which they cannot be honest with. It is a reflection of their taste and their dislikes and their personal preferences, it is a reflection of how they view the world and you within it…after all, it is THEY who did not get back to you. So love freely my darling, be wild but never ask yourself why someone else left you with unanswered questions, it is ironically, merely a question with which you will have to ask them.

WordPress on the Weekend.

Hi guys, so it’s the weekend and I’m going to be enjoying it with my family, what are you guys up to this weekend? My intermittent fasting posts were a hit over here on the blog and I just wanted to take some time out to THANK YOU guys for liking and reading my posts!

This week, not only did we reach *MOST LIKES* in a day at Life of a Chocolate Girl but we also reached *100 followers on the blog*! To some this may be a miniscule amount but to me this is a mountain, hopefully my first of many mountains, I would not have reached here without my subscribers and I am so grateful and happy for my mini milestones which I have reached.

So to celebrate these mini milestones, I am planning so much for you on the blog, amongst all the chaos of the family, I have so many life changes which have taken place and as always I will be bring you on every journey with me. For the moment we will remain on the journey through intermittent fasting and on the next blog post I want to talk more to you guys about KETOSIS…so keep an eye out.

So my fellow followers, have a creative and great weekend, and keep your eyes peeled for the next post!

Love R, xox

Știință in spatele postului intermitent.

Ți-am spus despre postul intermitent, despre ce înseamnă în postările precedente, iar in blog-ul de astăzi îți voi da o scurtă trecere peste ce spune ȘTIINȚA despre postul intermitent, cum funcționează și mai mult de ce ne este de folos.

Deci, postul intermitent vizează mai ales perioadele de 16: 8. Asta înseamnă 16 ore de post și o fereastră de 8 ore în care mancăm. Dacă nu știți ce înseamnă acest lucru, puteți citi totul despre asta pe postarea mea anterioară pe blog făcând clic aici.

Atunci când o persoană se hrănește intermitent, ei mănâncă adesea în blocul de 8 ore, lăsându-i cu cele 16 ore de post (acest lucru este, în general, cel mai frecvent tip de post intermitent – unele pot face perioade mai scurte sau mai lungi). Acest lucru face diferența între oamenii care nu urmează postul intermitent deoarece, după aproximativ 10-12 ore, au loc următoarele schimbări în corpul nostruȘ

1. Când mâncăm, de obicei depozităm energia sub formă de glicogen în ficat, totuși după 10-12 ore de post, nivelul glicogenului devine extrem de scăzut. În majoritatea cazurilor acest lucru va însemna nu numai că veți începe să simțiți senzația de foame, ci și o stare de nervozitate, termen pe care mulți dintre noi îl cunoaștem astăzi ca HANGRY(hungry + angry), dar mai important …

2. Cu puțin glicogen rămas, celulele grase din corpul tău eliberează grăsime în sânge. Grăsimea care a fost eliberată face ca ficatul să transforme această grăsime în energie pentru utilizare de către organism și chiar mai important pentru continuarea funcționării sănătoase a creierului, prin urmare, sunteți stare absolută de arderea grăsimilor pentru energie.

3. Probele de sânge arată că persoanele care au postit între 12 și 24 de ore au avut o creștere de 60% a energiei din arderea grăsimilor. Cea mai mare creștere după îregistrându-se după 18 ore.

4. Alte beneficii ale postului intermitent, în afară de arederea exclusivă a grăsimilor, o mai bună sănătate cardiovasculară și reducerea apetitului, este CETOZA.

5. Procesul de ardere a grăsimilor pentru energie prin eliberearea unor substanțe chimice numite corpuri cetonici.

6. În creierului cetonii declanșează eliberarea unei molecule importante numite BDNF.

7. Moleculele BDNF sunt responsabile pentru construirea și consolidarea neuronilor și a conexiunilor neuronale în zonele creierului responsabile de învățarea și memoria.

Deci, într-o recapitulare, postul intermitent ne pune corpul în cetoză, ceea ce ne ajută în numeroase moduri, mai mult, veți descoperi că, deși oamenii încep postul intermitent ca metodă de reducere a greutății, mulți îl adaptează ca parte a unui stil de viață, datorită celorlalte 101 beneficii ale cetozei.

Am studiat temeinic cetoza din orice unghi și voi extinde pe blog mai multe despre acest proces și de ce noi oamenii am fost făcuți pentru această practică. De ce am folosit cetoza pentru a supravietui de ani de zile si de ce ne ajuta in zilele noastre la tratarea pacientilor cu dementa, in tratarea epilepsiei la copii, pentru tratarea eczemelor de zi cu zi.

De mâine plănuiesc să încep si eu postul intermitent și să înregistrez fiecare pas nu doar pe blog aici, ci și într-un VLOG pe Youtube. Dacă există ceva specific pe care ai dori să-l întrebi despre postul intermitent, cetoza sau lucrurile pe care ai vrea să le notez, te rog să-mi dai un comentariu sau un mesaj și să-mi spui. Abia aștept să încep acest post și să văd dintr-o perspectivă personală cum imi putea afecta pozitiv și negativ viața de zi cu zi.

Sperând la cele mai bune, până atunci, pe data viitoare!

Fasting February

Hey guys! So since my last post, both my children contracted one of the worst viruses that had been going round (both better now) – we travelled to Denmark (VLOG coming soon) and now, finallyyy it’s the 1st February and I know you guys are tired of me talking about this intermittent fasting and want me to actually get some action in. SO THE DAY IS HERE. As we spoke on the previous blog posts all about this type of fasting and how it may aid in fat loss, I really wanted to see for myself.

So since 1st January, I noted down my weight on as many mornings as I remembered to weigh myself. I also noted down the amout of cardio I did everytime I did cardio. Ps. I know cardio isn’t the only weightloss option but I literally use cardio as a relaxation method amongst doing a teeeny little bit of weights, due to timing issues, total mom life. So for now #iamarunner. Below I will note down everything as I recorded and so for February I will do the exact same thing, except I will also add in intermittent fasting! I won’t change my diet plan or the gym schedule (which is by the way non-existent, I just go when I can). And from this at the end of February I’d like to do a comparison to see if by keeping everything the same in my lifestyle and simply adding in intermittent fasting, does it have an effect on fat/weight loss?

01/01 – 55.3kg

02/01 – 54.1kg

03/01  – 53.9kg

04/01 – 53.7kg – 5.15km 

05/01 – 53.5kg – 2.05km

06/01 – 53.4kg – 2.52km

08/01 – 53.5kg – 6.13km 

09/01 – 54kg – 5.08km

10/01 – 53.3kg – 3.09km

11/01 – 52.5kg – 2.53km 

12/01 – 52.7kg 

13/01 – 52.9kg – 7.3km 

14/01 – 52.2kg

16/01 – 52.9kg – 3.19km

17/01 – 52.7kg – 2.16km

20/01 – 52.6kg

21/01 – 52.5kg – 3.09km

24/01 – 52.6kg – 2.14km

31/01 – 53.2kg – 7.64km 

 

Total weight loss: 2.1kg

Total Cardio: 52.07 km

So these are the overall stats for the month of January, today is the 2nd of February so I did START with the intermittent fasting yesterday, however, of course I only managed to post on the blog today, no thanks to babies haha! I will also be vlogging about this sometime throughout the month, so don’t forget to subscribe to my youtube channel (life of a chocolate girl).

Any questions, or anything specific you’d like to know about any and all of this, just drop them down below! Catch you on the next post!