One thing that I’m sure A L L of us go through at some stage during our pregnancy is self-consciousness. Many of us (including me) find that at some point we begin to feel ‘fat’, ‘ugly’ and we find that at some point we love ourselves a little less – this, followed by guilt because of course we should be ecstatic about the fact that we are lucky to get pregnant and experience something so beautiful in the first place. Considering I’m onto my second pregnancy now, I didn’t think I’d have those feelings again, yet mid – second trimester, there I was wondering why I had got pregnant, because I was just so ‘fat’ again. Looking through all the ‘perfect’ pregnant women on my instagram my only thoughts were ‘why do I not look like that?’. How are all these women growing with grace and glowing beauty and where the hell is MY glow?? So anyways, I spent about a quarter of this pregnancy NOT taking pictures of myself with the belief that I didn’t look graceful and beautiful, I almost stopped taking care of myself, going to gym, doing my make-up etc. And so the downward spiral began…
Then one night after putting my toddler to bed, I was walking around in underwear and one of my husband’s t-shirts, obviously no make up and hair piled in a bird’s nest on top of my head when all of a sudden, my husbad turned round and told me I was the most beautiful woman in the world. I’m sure he’s said this before but it was truly the first time in a long time I actually heard him. That night after taking a long look at myself in the mirror I thought ‘what am I doing to myself? Yes, I have all these flaws, but they are because I am growing another child, a symbol of our love, what can be more beautiful than that.’ And that was the
click, since that night I decided to start doing little things, little adjustments in order to make myself feel beautiful again. I may not look anything like I did 6/7 months ago, yet for sure if I dedicate just a little bit of time to myself everyday then in feeling beautiful, I am acting beautiful and therefore I AM BEAUTIFUL. So here below, I have made a little list of tips, on little things we can do throughout our pregnancies to make ourselves feel the best we can and accept all those crazy hormones + changes that are taking over our bodies!
PREGNANCY PIGMENTATION – I have suffered this SO bad during both my pregnancies, where I am of asian heritage my skin is dark brown and therefore the pigmentation is black on my skin. My quick fix: a little bit of foundation which takes me 2 seconds to apply every day. Long term treatment: Looking into any treatments which may be available out there for pigmentation (I’m very into natural treatments and I think I may be starting the potato treatment – I’ll be posting about that soon if it works!)
PREGNANCY WEIGHT GAIN – although this is the most natural change that can happen to us during pregnancy, many of us find it hard. During my first pregnancy I was still quite chubby with ‘puppy fat’ from med school, so the weight gain really didn’t affect me. However, for this pregnancy, as I started off with a six pack, the weight gain hit me really hard psychologically. My quick fix: Walks with the family, going to the gym, telling myself that this is only temporary. Long term treatment: Although I eat A LOT, I try to eat as healthy as possible so that I can be sure everything I am consuming is doing great for the baby as well as for me. Also eating well avoids unnecessary weight gain and this therefore means after giving birth I will hopefully be able to get my pre-pregnancy body back quicker.
PREGNANCY ACHES & PAINS – I’m the get go mummy. I literally never sit down, and when I do it’s to blog, reply to emails or to work on customer programs (so my brain is literally always on the go), yet sometimes the back pain, the sciatica means that some days I literally HAD TO take a break and not complete everything I’d wanted to that day, whcih really got me down. My quick fix: accepting that I really should just take a break because soon with two babies, I’ll be wishing to sit down and won’t have the chance. Long term treatment: getting my hubby to massage me, trying out different stretches to help the pains.
PREGNANCY WARDROBE: as time goes on I really almost have nothing to wear. Over here where I live, maternity clothes that are good quality almost do not exist and so I am just squeezing into my larger size clothes or of course, just stealing from my husbands wardrobe, who doesn’t? My quick fix: buying larger more fashionable, comfy (yet also cheap clothes) where I can find them. I really don’t want to spend a lot of money on clothes for this bump when I know that I will definitely not be wearing them post-partum: Long term treatment: Looking at clothes and saving the ones I will buy after I give birth. Mental shopping therapy, and seeing as I barely bought myself any clothes during the pregnancy, it will totally be guilt free shopping when it comes to buying clothes!
PREGNANCY SKIN PROBLEMS: if you’re lucky you will have the pregnancy glowing skin (I did during my first trimester), if you’re like me this pregnancy then you may be suffering all sorts, pigmentation, dry skin, pregnancy eczema. My quick fix: cover it all up, I love make up so I don’t have a problem with covering my face in it, and as along as my husband loves me bare faced, that’s all that matter right? Long term treatment: either finding more accurate treatments for the symptoms or if you know that it’s purely a pregnancy thing (like me with my eczema) then just remind yourself that it’s all worth it for your beautiful little bundle of joy!
Pregnancy hormones that tell you you’re ugly: Me everyday. This unfortunately is a battle that can only be fought mentally. My quick fix: putting on a little bit of make-up, dressing up in something nicer (if it fits). Long term and MORE IMPORTANTLY: remind yourself that you are not any ‘uglier’ than you were, and even if you feel that you are it is for the most beautiful reason ever! Look in the mirror and tell yourself that you are beautiful and every time that you feel your little baby kick, it’s a reminder of why all these body changes are just so totally worth it.
I hope these little tips helped, just remember, how you look at other pregnant women and admire them, that’s how everyone else is looking at YOU. Even if you don’t feel like you’re amazing, you ARE and you have no reason to believe otherwise!