There are a lot of things which society makes us believe are okay, then there are a lot of things society makes us believe are not okay. Recently it has come to my attention about how much of a sin we feel it is to publicly love ourselves. We are absolutely pushed by our peers and the people, community and society around us to be modest about our achievements, how we look or how we feel. Here, let me give you a dilemma…
– You’re feeling confident and great about yourself, tonight you really feel like you look amazing (and btw you do!), you head out to meet some girlfriends and one of them will compliment you… ‘Hey [insert name here] you’re looking so pretty tonight.’ What is your response?
- ‘Thank you, I feel great today, you look awesome too.’
- ‘Aww thank you, but you’re so much prettier.’
I know that most of us would pick the second option…but why? Why are we pressured to feel that even if we feel great, that actually stating how we feel is not allowed, that if we state how we really feel about ourselves, then we are being big headed. Modesty is not a bad thing, in any way or form at all, but what is bad is being made to feel that we have to be so modest we cannot freely express the positivity that may encapture our souls some days. We don’t always feel beautiful, positive or just generally great every day. Even the strong willed amongst us have our bad days where we will wake up lacking energy, negative and feeling generally ‘ugly’ all round. And you know what, those days are okay too, it’s human nature to go through changes, to feel different vibes, to experience emotions, feelings and sensations all around us. When you’re feeling down, grab a bucket of ice cream and watch a great movie because that’s okay, when you’re feeling beautiful, dress up and do what you do best…but most importantly of all, don’t hide yourself or your feelings, it’s okay to feel either end of a spectrum and you are human for doing so.
So next time you feel great, tell the world, take a selfie, accept the compliments, show the world in each of your own individual ways that you are feeling great and you are not ashamed of feeling this way. Modesty is not an option when it’s about self positivity. So look great, feel great, live great and postivity will spread. Because you ARE beautiful and you are entitled to feel that way.
Have a great day, a wonderful week and freely feel beautiful…
Feat: Dark Obsession for men by Calvin Klein
Hair by Andreea Bogatean